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all squirrels aside, let me tell you about rip-tv.

it's hard to explain exactly how we are connected and have anyone really grasp the relationship... hmmm.

let's see. how can i articulate it?

OK.

the biggest secret in the secret world o' lebians is that ex-girlfriends never go away.

lesbians are much too understanding and have so much experience facilitating, communicating and minimizing rejection that they find it impossible to cut someone out of their lives.

these same lesbians also hang out with the same circle of friends forever. the only way one ever gets _new_ lesbian friends is when someone in your group starts going out with someone from another group. then you'll probably get to meet some women from the new group.

(i was going to write "girls in the new group" in the sentence above, which would have been oh-so-third-wave of me. --third-wave feminist that is -- that's what happens when an old second-waver starts going out with a darling young chica...)

but as i was saying...

between never letting go of anyone and hanging with an only incrementally changing group of friends we lesbos develop quite a convoluted chain of relationships. going to a party is like a homosexual version of six-degrees of separation: if the criteria is "people you have slept with", you are never very many hops away from any other person at the party.

both rip-tv and flotsam, are links in my convoluted chain.

[and i say this in the most reverential and respectful way possible; if flotsam is at the party everyone's degree of separation from any other is DRASTICALLY reduced]

but i digress.

what i am trying to say is that though we are not the closest of friends, we are some sort of FRIENDS and there is a way in which i feel RELATED to rip-tv. related in the same way as you are related to your brother's wife or something: close, not blood, could be really close, could hate each other's guts... related.

that being said i can now confess to you another secret.

she scares the shit out of me.

(in that i-feel-so-inadequate sort of way)

rip-tv is one of the most brilliantly intelligent people you would ever meet (don't worry, it's not something she doesn't already know). that's the problem. she's frighteningly intelligent. she's one of those people that you listen to ... really ... closely, consciously... thinking ... about everything they say.

and STILL you don't understand what they're talking about.

so now you can see why having my link removed from her page was like being scoffed at by my most strict professor (like... john houseman or something). *snif* i feel sooo contrite. *snif*

(ok the above is meant to be a bit sarcastic but...)

the whole point is, there are probably people out there who would get a kick out of her site (she also does the kick-ass graphics on the page and in her writing, fucking talented prick). in her latest she's promising to serialize her "most pornographic" story to date.

so go on back there again. (and then come back and explain it all to me...;->)